Are you tired of wondering why, night after night, you’re sitting at home with a nice glass of wine and your pajamas when your little black dress sits sadly at the back of your closet? Being single generally related to traceable life and/or thought patterns which, once identified, are completely changeable! It’s like ditching a bad habit; it will take some time and foresight but can definitely alter the way your live your life (especially if you’re looking for love). Here are the top fourteen reasons why you might keep missing out on the right person, and some ways that you can change them in order to work towards a relationship that fulfills you.
1) You’re Not Ready Yet
Cliché as it may sound, there is totally truth to this one: you won’t be able to enter into a new relationship until you’re absolutely ready for it. Not being “ready” can come in a multitude of forms (the most common are still obsessing over your ex, or still working on getting your own life together).
Before you proceed to try and figure out what’s missing from your days, take a moment to evaluate the big hurdles you’ve dealt with over the past year or two. Can you honestly say that you’ve lain your demons to rest with the major ones? Is there room in your life for another person right now? If the answer is “no” to one or both of these questions, then you have some work to do before a new relationship is going to be the right thing. If this is the case, whether consciously or subconsciously, you will continue to push people away as they get a little too close. This is off-putting to potential suitors and they will react accordingly, thus leaving you dateless at the end of the night. Don’t let these things mold; take time to actively sort them (whether by yourself or with some professional help). It will get you back in the saddle all the more quickly, and mean success in the long-run on the dating scene.